We are all constantly going through cycles and these cycles have to come to an end, I’m not talking about actually dying, though that most certainly is an end to the cycle of life, but more an end to a phase in our life. Now, the end of the phase doesn’t necessarily have to be an unpleasant thing, it could be the birth of a child or marriage, both of these end one phase but a new phase is beginning.
Sometimes, it could just be a radical change in our lives that we have to deal with, whether good or bad. The change may come to you as a shock or unexpected, for instance you may be diagnosed with an illness that will radically change the way you think and do things from now on or a relationship may end.
It is up to you whether these endings are painful or easy, it depends on whether you recognise the necessity of endings and change, if you do, you can let go of the old way of life and look forward with anticipation to the new phase that is beginning or you can hang onto the past, which is now “dead” and by doing so, it will cause you more pain.
Refusing to let go of the past or refusing to accept change means you will just live in a state of limbo because you are refusing to allow yourself to move forward, the person that this will hurt the most is you. Every ending of a phase needs to have its own mourning, something has ended but the positive is something fantastic could be just around the corner.
Just remember that it’s OK to go through the levels of mourning regardless of the situation, but the important thing is to go through them, so you that you can let go and look forward to what your new adventure is.