There was a disturbing article on the news, I think it was the other week.  They did a test in Melbourne to see if strangers would step in to help someone.  They put a man in a wheelchair and then had another man stand over him and verbally abuse him very loudly.

Not one person stopped to see if the man in the wheelchair needed help.  I’m not saying that this is exclusive to Melbourne!  I am sure that it would happen anywhere in the world.

What is it that makes us hesitate to help someone?  Is it a fear of being hurt? Not wanting to get involved?  Have a think about it.  Would you help someone in that situation or a similar one?

Which bring me to another topic but similar! Why is it that people are allowed to behave badly, rudely, being ignorant of other people feelings, or just plain” it’s all about them??”  There is a member of my family, whom I won’t name but has consistently through their life put their needs above everyone else.  This person picks and chooses who they want to be “family” with, to the extent it’s not even their real family but step-family but then chooses to ignore those that are technically closer to them. 

Yet, when they do behave selfishly, and this person is known for it, no-one says anything to them.  Their parents don’t even say anything to them and it has become a case of whatever they want, they get, regardless of how it affects others.

I’ve really had enough of it.  Now maybe that makes me a “hard” person, but I don’t see why I should attend a family function, having to grit my teeth through the whole thing because of this other person.  I wouldn’t have a friend who does this so why should I put up with it from family?

So I refused to go to the family function this weekend.  I just couldn’t do it.  I can no longer sit by and let this person say whatever they want to whomever they want and not step it and put them in their place.  Which, I am sure would have caused problems.  Yet, I was told that I should forgive this person their bad behaviour that the problem was obviously me and not the other person. 

Hmmm what to do?  I am all for forgiveness so that people can move on.  But for me, this issue isn’t stopping me from moving on, I’m more frustrated with those around who won’t tell this person that they are plain old rude and selfish!  They keep facilitating the behaviour and THAT is what I am no longer going to do!!

I can honestly say, I felt good about not going to the family function AND I had a wonderful weekend with my hubby.

What are your thoughts??

 Till next week with Love and Light

Katrina-Jane