I personally don’t believe in ignoring ‘bad’ things and hoping they will go away, I’m a believer in being a positive pessimist, if that’s even a term!  When something happens in our life that is unexpected or not wanted, I don’t believe in sticking your head in the sand and ignoring what is going on.  What I believe is that we face the problem head on and go, ‘yep, this is crap, so what am I going to do to change things / deal with it?’.  Don’t wallow in misery or feel sorry for yourself (well not for too long anyway) because of the situation you are in or having to face.  The way our lives play out is up to us and how we deal with the things that are thrown at us.

Don’t for one instance think that because you’ve become ‘more spiritual’ that nothing ‘bad’ will happen to you, life doesn’t seem to work that way, but hopefully you will learn that the way that you deal with things creates a ripple effect that can eventually come back to you.

My husband and I went to a fundraiser on Saturday night for a mate of his at the Surf Club – he was hit on his bicycle a week ago and the prognosis is that he will be in a wheelchair for the rest of his life and one of his close mates told us all (as the family obviously weren’t there) that when he asked his mates wife what their life will be like now, her reply was something along the lines of ‘amazing, our life is going to be amazing, sure it will be different to what we had previously planned, but it will still be amazing’.

How beautiful is that?  The family has accepted what has happened and instead of wallow in misery they are looking at what new things this will create for them, what new adventures they will have as a family and what challenges they will face as a family, not sitting down going ‘why us, it’s not fair’.

So, regardless of the challenge you face today or tomorrow accept that it has happened, have a rant and rave if you need to, cry and mourn for a bit and then ask yourself what you can take from this, what can you learn, how should you react to it, take time to think about it, but please, don’t sit and wallow in your misery, and if you don’t think life is fair, go for a walk through the cancer ward at your local hospital and have a chat with that 2 year old that won’t live to see his 3rd birthday, it may give you a bit of perspective of your life.

Because you have to get up and keep going, because there is an amazing life that you still have to live and who wants to miss out on that?!