What is a toxic person?

I’ve noticed that when the topic of a toxic person comes up, most people think of people that are controlling.

You know, that toxic person that is out to get you or a toxic person who is someone who is cruel and uncaring.

The truth of the matter is this, a toxic person can have good intentions and may care for you deeply.

How can a toxic person be someone that cares for you?

Because they are trying to push their needs and their way of living in this world onto you.

When someone does this, they are in fact toxic to your wellbeing.

Are they a ‘bad’ person? Not necessarily.

We’re all allowed to have differing opinions, it’s just that they are unwilling to accept that their ways aren’t necessarily what is best for you.

When you have a toxic person like that close to you, it means you are forced to compromise yourself, your beliefs and your happiness.

Let me emphasise that doesn’t mean that they are bad, they just aren’t the right person for you.

As difficult as it is, you have to let the toxic person go.

Life is hard enough as it is, without being around people who are going to bring you down.

There is a difference to someone pointing out different options and getting you to think outside the square and someone that forces their opinions onto you or isn’t supportive of your decisions.

It’s also not healthy to surround yourself with ‘yes’ people, we all need to be challenged!

A non-toxic person is someone who in the end allows you to make the choices that you want, whether they think they’re good for you or not.

A toxic person will make you feel guilty because you didn’t follow their advice.

Remember that it doesn’t matter how much you care about them or they you, you can’t destroy who you are for the sake of someone else.

Why should you make your wellbeing a priority?

Because you matter.

Your needs matter just as much as everyone else’s.

Just because someone close to you refuses to understand that it doesn’t give them the right to put you down.

We are all on our own journey and we have to live it the way that is best for us, mistakes and all.

What does this mean?

That you have to break up with someone that you care about, because they are a toxic person.

You need to put distance between you and a family member.

Letting go of a friend or removing yourself from a painful situation.

You have every right to do this.

You have every right in the world to leave that toxic person.

To go and create for yourself a space that is safe for you to grow.

Nurture yourself.   Allow people into your life that will help you in growing and be the best that you can be.

Katrina